Life was simpler when I was young and single, and could curl up in bed with a box of chocolates and a romance novel.
Another viewpoint on change today. A Facebook friend linked Seth Godin's latest post: No, everything is not going to be okay. It struck home. Especially this...
No, everything is not going to be okay. It never is. It isn't okay now. Change, by definition, changes things. It makes some things better and some things worse. But everything is never okay.
Finding the bravery to shun faux reassurance is a critical step in producing important change. Once you free yourself from the need for perfect acceptance, it's a lot easier to launch work that matters.
I am at a crossroads right now. I am probably going back to work. If I can find a job. Ideally part-time. Isn't it interesting how the very thing that I've been bemoaning - not having work of my own, desperately needing a separateness from my role as wife and mother, now feels threatening. Because... it is becoming a financial necessity, and not a choice. How nice it is to have choices. Yet, how often do we look the other way when opportunities present themselves?
Work that matters. It resonates. It lures me. It feels a bit...out of reach. Yet, if I can ground myself, and not sink with the fears of the what ifs??? What if I go back to work and my children feel abandoned? What am I going to miss? What if I get a part-time job, but am unable to manage the pick-ups and drop-offs of my children? What if I'm too tired to write? What if...
I am a reassurance seeker ...junkie. I'm better than I used to be, but...truthfully? I have a long, long way to go. When Godin uses the phrase "faux reassurance," is he talking about seeking reassurance that isn't real, that the people delivering the reassurance are false? Or, is he saying that the whole idea of reassurance is false, because you really can't be reassured? Because, "everything is never okay."
Perhaps it is like the fable of Santa Claus. We believe it until we don't. I reassure my children all the time. It will be okay...I say. Am I setting them up? I don't think so. Because, I need to believe it is going to be okay, too.