Tuesday, January 25, 2011

The fatigue has done a tattoo march down her spine

JCK finds that parenting is a lot like life. Some days are golden. And some days? Are just bloody hard. She's depleted. Out of patience. Out of coping skills. Out of even finding the vocabulary for her own thoughts. Her footing is precarious.

She wonders if the universe is conspiring against her? Because it feels personal.

She can't control anything, and she thinks she can. It's laughable, really. Yet, a battle she just isn't going to win. The irrepressible feelings, the highs and lows, the failures - all of it, hers.

Yesterday was a day when communicating with her son was like picking gum off her shoe. Or being in that dream. You know the one. The nightmare where everyone is talking in slow motion and you can't move away... your limbs stuck in space.

Today her boy kept getting hurt. First a very hard wallop of a tire swing in motion to his cheek, then a bent finger, and at dinner he thought he was choking -was panicked, hysterical.

The journey with BOY is one that is meant for JCK. No doubt about it. Yet, having a child with challenges sometimes feels brutal. There are days when JCK is winging it. Doing the best she can. That's all she knows what to do.

Sometimes, JCK wishes she could crawl into bed, hide, and pull the covers over her head. The fatigue has done a tattoo march down her spine. But, she can't... because her family depends on her. And, they need her now most of all. So, she WILL rise to the occasion. She will be a grown-up. Or, give it her best shot. No matter how flawed. But, secretly she wishes...she could sleep through the tough parts. Yes, she does...


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Painting "Between Darkness & Wonder" by Chuck Gumpert.


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6 comments:

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

"Yesterday was a day when communicating with her son was like picking gum off her shoe." I am going to share this with my husband. He jokes that he gets so irritated with himself and he asks our 17-year old son a yes/no question instead of an open-ended one. Since we only get to ask one question a day before we are treated as though we're conducting an inquisition, this is important!

yogurt said...

I really liked the gum shoe comparison as well. The longer I pursue a point with my teens, the stickier it gets and the more hopeless I feel. Parenting truly is the marathon of developmental challenges.

Andrea Frazer said...

You could have written that post for me. You did, in fact! THank you. We love you and YOU ARE DOING GREAT. Andrea

Anonymous said...

Jennifer, this so hit the mark — it brought tears and a smile at the same time. Thank you for finding beautiful words that apply to so many of the feelings we all feel as parents. SCH

Margaret said...

I hate to break it to you, but the world IS conspiring against you, and it is personal. I recommend sangria, although I know you prefer whiskey.

Diana said...

This post really hits the mark. I too, like the gum on the shoe comparison. As a parent of teens, tweens and a grade-schooler I can say that the analogy applies to all stages of development. Ugh. I guess what I recently heard that sometimes you just have to "endure" parenthood, is really true. Hang in there.

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