tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post8165644582594051643..comments2024-01-26T05:21:36.865-08:00Comments on Motherscribe: My greatest wish is for them to be friends when they are grownJCKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-34248670461924127582009-01-26T14:47:00.000-08:002009-01-26T14:47:00.000-08:00I wish the same for my two as well. It didn't work...I wish the same for my two as well. It didn't work out that way for me and my brother (he's 15 months younger). We get along, but we're diametrically opposed politically, spiritually, theologically, and any other ally you can think of. We will support each other when the need arises, but we will never be able to have a deep conversation on anything that matters to either of us.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190489990653412687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-50640975369590025602009-01-01T09:02:00.000-08:002009-01-01T09:02:00.000-08:00I wish the same. It's a toss up, though, I believe...I wish the same. It's a toss up, though, I believe. Based on who they are, who they become. But I do think providing good parental boundaries, witnessing a healthy marriage, general harmony at home, these things help.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-6145101813183836532008-12-30T06:50:00.000-08:002008-12-30T06:50:00.000-08:00Thank you JCK,yes the rules are the same over here...Thank you JCK,<BR/>yes the rules are the same over here in Singapore too, the 'foster families' and the 'adoptive families'....<BR/><BR/>Of cos' I won't take those 'play act' words seriously...and I agree its somewhat unnatural for kids that were raised as siblings to fall in love with each other...<BR/><BR/>*deep sigh* this very unnatural thing happened to my friend and her brother, whom her parents adopted at birth... and her parents were against it...obviously I can't talk to her parents, YOU were the 'best' candidate I thought I could find out more from the perspective of the parents... that's why I asked what I did earlier on... *smile*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-44416848430045211012008-12-28T20:51:00.000-08:002008-12-28T20:51:00.000-08:00"I see the shuttered look of a boy born to fly bei..."I see the shuttered look of a boy born to fly being asked to come back down to earth."<BR/><BR/>Wow. What an amazing insight into his character. You're both perceptive and eloquent.<BR/><BR/>Love this image, all the kids using the Rose Bowl parking lot for bike riding. What fun!Glennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03681336164718681936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-85689812757228924272008-12-28T20:37:00.000-08:002008-12-28T20:37:00.000-08:00One of my biggest wishes for my boys is that they ...One of my biggest wishes for my boys is that they will always be friends. I would be utterly lost without my sis and I really want that for them too:)<BR/>Merry belated Christmas! Glad you are finally on the mend!happygeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14554736584093276751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-62580543375411869752008-12-28T11:54:00.000-08:002008-12-28T11:54:00.000-08:00Angeline, I just wanted to address your question. ...Angeline, I just wanted to address your question. <BR/><BR/>In the U.S. it would definitely not be considered normal for children raised as siblings to marry. Children play act all the time saying they want to marry their parents, siblings, etc. I'm sure that is universal around the world!<BR/><BR/>Also, there are foster families and adoptive families. (I am not sure if it is the same in Singapore.) Foster families are basically families that temporarily take in children and care for them until the children's parents are ready and able to take them back. Adoptive families are families who adopt children (usually from birth, but not always) and become the legal parents of the children. They are what we call in adoption lingo "forever families." <BR/><BR/>We adopted my son and he has been with us since birth. We are the named parents on his birth certificate. He has my husband's last name. He is so much a part of me that sometimes I forget that I have given birth to him. It would be unnatural for my children to ever be more than siblings. <BR/><BR/>Hope this clarifies.JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-3389722847601941582008-12-28T11:14:00.000-08:002008-12-28T11:14:00.000-08:00You write beautifully. I can picture this moment ...You write beautifully. I can picture this moment as though I am there. Thank you for stopping by to visit my blog and leaving a comment. I hope you had a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.Momma Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696048453973147293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-88040987210175940902008-12-28T10:39:00.000-08:002008-12-28T10:39:00.000-08:00I wish that too. The way they fight like cats and...I wish that too. The way they fight like cats and dogs then whiplash to being cohorts (and sometimes co-conspiritors) leaves me hopeful.Manic Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02397835927560496425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-508502444069775152008-12-28T10:27:00.000-08:002008-12-28T10:27:00.000-08:00I remembered there was this post some time back ab...I remembered there was this post some time back about Girl and Boy talking about marrying each other? something like that...<BR/><BR/>Have you ever thought of 'THAT' possibility? Beyond friends...? cos' its completely 'ok' isn't it? But I know of some foster parents who refused to accept it when it actually happened...<BR/><BR/>what's your view...?I'm curious...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-61979463548013163162008-12-28T05:51:00.000-08:002008-12-28T05:51:00.000-08:00that's my wish too. at 10 and 6 my boys are very ...that's my wish too. at 10 and 6 my boys are very close and i think they will continue to be so. i'm so grateful.Madgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905740781186585499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-8685431360164911002008-12-28T04:59:00.000-08:002008-12-28T04:59:00.000-08:00I've always wondered (as on only child) what paren...I've always wondered (as on only child) what parents can do to foster that kind of friendship in their children. What do you do?<BR/><BR/>I love the picture of the tree, and the image of them in the grass, looking up at it.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164420416881517854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-19942376494112940692008-12-27T22:00:00.000-08:002008-12-27T22:00:00.000-08:00I know that wish.I know that wish.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-45732176008293364062008-12-27T21:35:00.000-08:002008-12-27T21:35:00.000-08:00That's a good wish - I bet they will friends.That's a good wish - I bet they will friends.blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.com