tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post8263716799021530767..comments2024-01-26T05:21:36.865-08:00Comments on Motherscribe: Feeling One's Mortality: A Preschooler's NightmareJCKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-72924399324373348452008-03-17T07:12:00.000-07:002008-03-17T07:12:00.000-07:00Anything can prompt the question. My father died w...Anything can prompt the question. My father died when I was 3 1/2 - that was a biggie. My grandfather died in November, which prompted numerous questions from the Queen, who was just under 4 at the time. And Jen is right, the Disney movies are big culprits (no one survives in those things). You did great.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190489990653412687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-14347513873956581582008-03-16T19:41:00.000-07:002008-03-16T19:41:00.000-07:00you did good. you prepared me as well! ugh. the...you did good. you prepared me as well! ugh. the questions...Texashollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17982077447405220888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-12372817094942494742008-03-15T19:34:00.000-07:002008-03-15T19:34:00.000-07:00HRH started crying one night saying he didn't want...HRH started crying one night saying he didn't want to die because he'd miss me. I nearly cried too.<BR/><BR/>I came up with an answer similar to yours and just held on to him until he (and I) felt better.<BR/><BR/>Oh, they break your heart.Manic Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02397835927560496425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-6282325910469713542008-03-15T18:55:00.000-07:002008-03-15T18:55:00.000-07:00My oldest girl was 4 when she asked me one day, fr...My oldest girl was 4 when she asked me one day, from the back seat of the car, "Mommy, do we all die?" I almost drove into a fire hydrant. I told her calmly, "Yes, dear." And she was fine with that.<BR/><BR/>But Kalynne is right - it is important to explain to her that she will never be alone, and that there is a new life waiting for her after this one.Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-72282025835025024632008-03-15T18:48:00.000-07:002008-03-15T18:48:00.000-07:00It's perfectly normal but still causes some freaki...It's perfectly normal but still causes some freaking out.Tootsie Farklepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18336671002327112885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-61115217583860238292008-03-15T17:22:00.000-07:002008-03-15T17:22:00.000-07:00So sweet, these conversations!Thanks for coming by...So sweet, these conversations!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for coming by. Hope you are having a good weekend and I'll see you soon. KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-11315368337545744572008-03-15T15:46:00.000-07:002008-03-15T15:46:00.000-07:00I know you from Parent Ed! Fridays, teacher Marily...I know you from Parent Ed! Fridays, teacher Marilyn... (last year, or three years ago... not sure) I finally found your blog. (And I'm so glad I did!) <BR/><BR/>I've got one too!barbrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918903739834969992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-31536461901014682852008-03-15T10:33:00.000-07:002008-03-15T10:33:00.000-07:00It's so hard when our kids have fears we can't rea...It's so hard when our kids have fears we can't really stop. i thought you did very well to reassure her!Miss Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15430066224876012848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-33622079066401576522008-03-15T10:00:00.000-07:002008-03-15T10:00:00.000-07:00I can't remember at what age mine started asking t...I can't remember at what age mine started asking this, but it comes up off and on. <BR/><BR/>But I do know I wasn't prepared for it. You handled it very well, and exactly right.<BR/><BR/>What a sweet girl.Jennifer Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16239563357592230711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-75999946361671446382008-03-15T08:17:00.000-07:002008-03-15T08:17:00.000-07:00It is not only possible, it is developmentally app...It is not only possible, it is developmentally appropriate! Four year olds are totally preoccupied with death; it's a little freaky, but they all go through it!Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-43023783262907856582008-03-15T08:02:00.000-07:002008-03-15T08:02:00.000-07:00What a tender moment - it's hard for them to imagi...What a tender moment - it's hard for them to imagine a day when they won't be with us when they are that age.<BR/><BR/>Shoot. Eighteen seems impossible when you are 3; leaving home.<BR/><BR/>She's a sweetie.Lisa Wheeler Miltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07386193798727387546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-10419685005844122212008-03-15T05:31:00.000-07:002008-03-15T05:31:00.000-07:00the big questions. they are hard. i think harder...the big questions. they are hard. i think harder on us then on them -- we know what it really means to start getting your head around things like mortality. hug them tight.slow panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806001325853693285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-65911189461475970312008-03-15T05:09:00.000-07:002008-03-15T05:09:00.000-07:00Doesn't someone always die in every single Disney ...Doesn't someone always die in every single Disney movie you've ever seen? No wonder kids are thinking about death! Once we had a special "movie day" at the preschool I worked, and showed Tarzan. One girl's mom was furious afterwards, saying that she became obsessed with her mom and dad dying.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164420416881517854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-69023521521687223482008-03-15T00:05:00.000-07:002008-03-15T00:05:00.000-07:00Oh sweet little thingOh sweet little thingflutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-54550128574793937432008-03-14T23:40:00.000-07:002008-03-14T23:40:00.000-07:00Deep breath. This worry is not at all unusual. W...Deep breath. This worry is not at all unusual. What she wants to know (if my experience with nine preschooolers is any indication) is that you will still be a family after she dies. Which you will. <BR/><BR/>C'mon, you Episcopalians can do this: God gave you to each other on purpose, and for a reason. All of God's reasons are forever. So you will belong to each other forever. In heaven, it will be even better...because it will be for ever and ever and ever.<BR/><BR/>(You might try reading C.S. Lewis' THE LAST BATTLE, volume VII of THE CHRONICLES OF NARNIA, to them. It was a huge help to my kids -- and to me, too!)Kalynne Pudnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804224012895512550noreply@blogger.com