tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post9001214881720788573..comments2024-01-26T05:21:36.865-08:00Comments on Motherscribe: In which I sound like a Feminist from the 1970s, and I'm owning it...JCKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-81360603905953256852010-01-06T20:56:49.909-08:002010-01-06T20:56:49.909-08:00Many companies all over the world need your opinio...Many companies all over the world need your opinions on their products. They will send you a simple online survey forms, where you need to fill it out and they pay you money.<br /><br />The most remarkable thing about this paid survey program is that anyone can make money with it. <br />It doesn't require any special skills, training, education or previous business experience. You only need access to the Internet and basic typing skills. <br />It is the perfect home business for stay at home moms, students, home makers, retirees or anyone that is in need of some extra cash.<br /><br /><br />www.onlineuniversalwork.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-54279770924151420902009-08-16T21:29:44.574-07:002009-08-16T21:29:44.574-07:00I am thinking great thoughts for you. I am also sa...I am thinking great thoughts for you. I am also saying prayers. I'd also like to add the very unpopular opinion that goes against your post that... ahem... your paycheck DOES NOT totally define you if you don't let it. Don't even let your husband do it to you. I completely understand the need to make your own money... I am doing it myself with my column AND I Ebay for that little extra, but.... I'm really standing my ground with my husband and kids and am determined to be adored for who I am sans paycheck.<br /><br />Ah, hell, you already know this shit. No go make some cold hard cash, bitch.Mels Place in Big Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14985517366546322021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-62661120297880545282009-08-14T07:14:11.092-07:002009-08-14T07:14:11.092-07:00Now that my child is an adult and out of the house...Now that my child is an adult and out of the house - NOW I want to stay at home! I'm burned out on work, can't stand the 9 - 5, would really rather stay home and be creative. I guess I'm just perverse!Glennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03681336164718681936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-58344358588973312002009-08-13T18:45:48.064-07:002009-08-13T18:45:48.064-07:00I have chosen (or life has chosen for me) not to b...I have chosen (or life has chosen for me) not to be a SAHM... There are regrets about not spending more/ enough time with my children. But you make me realize that I do revel in a quiet pride about working. My husband has recently the one at home, and I feel that now I have the easier and more immediately rewarding (ie moolah baby) role. I just heard a piece on our local Public Radio station about how more men are becoming stay at home dads as they get laid off.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022510375076341827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-25166229505326330432009-08-13T06:04:38.775-07:002009-08-13T06:04:38.775-07:00I do understand that, although I have two differen...I do understand that, although I have two different perspectives. I was unemployed for about 18 months during my first marriage (no kids). I definitely felt less than, but then again, I still felt that even after I got a job. MANY years later, with second hubby, I'm home with our kids. Occasionally I'll make a remark about wishing I could earn my own money, and he'll say something like, "You earn it every day." I've been sort of half-heartedly looking around for work I could do at home, editing or whatnot, but once DeBoy starts kindergarten in two years, I may have to just take whatever part-time work I can get. Even public school is proving to be expensive. Snack money, lunch money, greatly increased travel back and forth.<br /><br />Your office will not sit empty.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02190489990653412687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-80335293563498037212009-08-12T19:15:28.780-07:002009-08-12T19:15:28.780-07:00Interesting discussion.
In our 13 years of marriag...Interesting discussion.<br />In our 13 years of marriage we have never had two incomes. For 6 years it was me earning and him studying, two where I studied, he earned and now he earns and I raise children.<br />I think because it has always been a give and take I don't feel as if it is His money that I must ask for, it is our money that we carefully pool together depending on our circumstances. <br />He is more excited than I am about me going back to work, he'd like to have a little more money in the pool again:).happygeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14554736584093276751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-27753923850075935992009-08-12T18:51:31.724-07:002009-08-12T18:51:31.724-07:00I do know the "less than" feeling. Even...I do know the "less than" feeling. Even when there was noone in my house or in my social world who voiced anything connected to my being "less than," I felt it. Not saying it was legitimate. I felt appreciated. But I still felt "less than" inside because I value my independence and ability to contribute. <br /><br />It was a creeping-up-behind-me sort of feeling, as if I needed to ask before I purchase anything other than basic necessities. I didn't ask, and I didn't need to ask, but I had this nagging feeling that I didn't deserve to make the financial decisions. <br /><br />Currently I spend a lot of time in the therapy room in front of women who feel "less than" but haven't articulated it yet. It takes a lot of energy not to pounce. <br /><br />I find it the most unfair when I'm working with or friends with SAHMs going through divorce. In my (un) fair state of Texas, SAHMs aren't guaranteed very much under the law. My understanding is that it wildly fluctuates, depending on the judge who hears the case. <br /><br />I find myself imagining some type of legal contract, not unlike a pre-nup, where a SAH parent's willingness to give up a paycheck "out there" would be recognized as her entitled contribution, or due, under the law, in the event of divorce. SAH parents make it possible for the working spouse to achieve greater career climbs, which equals greater income, which doesn't always translate into a satisfactory settlement for the income-less ex-spouse. That is unfair. <br /><br />I could go on and on. Can you tell? <br /><br />And yes, this psychologist fully appreciates the mental health benefits of a full body massage. Help set those endorphins free, Motherscribe. <br /><br />I was in your shoes ten years ago. I remember the fear. Will the office remain empty? We went into the red for a couple years (when childcare cost was factored in). But now? Worth every lost penny.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-36061434818051145322009-08-12T08:29:06.539-07:002009-08-12T08:29:06.539-07:00Own it, sister. Amen.Own it, sister. Amen.Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08668487489667818687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-57478352342102623992009-08-12T07:49:14.945-07:002009-08-12T07:49:14.945-07:00I have been blessed with an understanding - and ap...I have been blessed with an understanding - and appreciative - husband, but even so I nearly wept when my first paycheck in 7 years came from substitute teaching. I'd barely worked a few hours in a month but it was addressed to me, for much of the same kind of work I'd been doing for almost a decade <i>for free</i>.<br /><br />Preach it, sister. You can.stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04257126641387033673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-69951096462819880032009-08-12T05:23:02.699-07:002009-08-12T05:23:02.699-07:00I think one of the biggest problems is when SAHMs ...I think one of the biggest problems is when SAHMs have to ask their husbands for money, or when their husbands make them feel bad for spending money, because "they don't work". Childcare is expensive, so what SAHMs do is invaluable to the family. The main issue as I see it is appreciation. SAHMs need to appreciate the value of their work, and their husband's need to appreciate it as well.<br /><br />I also feel that more companies should create part time positions. It is incredibly difficult to work full time and raise a family.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164420416881517854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-61831544488719101942009-08-12T04:55:44.452-07:002009-08-12T04:55:44.452-07:00I've been thinking a lot about that this week ...I've been thinking a lot about that this week as I watch my male co-workers bring in raises and bonuses and I am asked to do more, with no offer of additional money. I don't like that. It doesn't sit well with me. My goal is to button down this week and see what happens. If I improve on my work ethic, will I earn more money even though I'm a woman? Probably not. I've earned the same amount for five years now. Why should it change? Maybe because I need to make it change. <br /><br />ANyhow, great post!Lisa @ Boondock Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11430994283914399581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-48995578557247635142009-08-12T04:48:41.141-07:002009-08-12T04:48:41.141-07:00I am so happy for you, J! You seem on the brink o...I am so happy for you, J! You seem on the brink of finding that elusive middle ground.<br /><br />I miss working less for the idea of making my own money (although that would be nice) and more for the idea of incorporating my mind into the equation. I'm choosing school as my next step.Manic Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02397835927560496425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3271931822987740572.post-39929612059603191422009-08-11T22:21:58.432-07:002009-08-11T22:21:58.432-07:00It's a very interesting idea you bring up, but...It's a very interesting idea you bring up, but I have never really felt like I was "less than" for being a SAHM.<br /><br />I always realized he couldn't do what he could do without me doing what I did. Maybe when I start working full-time (hopefully soon) I'll feel differently.<br /><br />I'm glad what you're doing is already giving you satisfaction.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.com