I recently joined FACEBOOK. I know. I know! I reject TWITTER and have succumbed to LA FACEBOOK. The great thing about Facebook is that several friends, whom I had lost touch with, found me - and I, them. And, that has been fun to suddenly see an email land in my inbox on FACEBOOK from a long lost friend. Or to have a blogging friend find me. But... I wonder if it is really a healthy way to stay in touch with my local friends. I already rely on emails too much, instead of phone calls, and now instead of emails I find myself on the receiving end of little snippets of conversation on my WALL. Worse, I find myself returning little snippets of conversation on their WALL. And in this world of here today, gone tomorrow...rush, rush...zip, zip...it feels a bit uncomfortable. As in...FFFFFFFACEBOOK....FRIENDSHIP KEEPER OR FAKEOUT?
Let me clarify. It feels lazy. And, I say this because I have at least two local friends whom I've exchanged comments with....
Oh, darling we simply MUST get together SOOON...
Yes, SWEETIE....absoLUTELY HAVE TO!
And...we never do. In all fairness, I've only been on FACEBOOK for a couple of months. But, I'm afraid. Very afraid. Of my own NARCISSISM, and self loathing. Because, I am already delinquent in keeping up with friends. Once a Chatty Cathy on the phone, I was lured away by Mr. Email. In fact, I attribute my downward spiral to emails. ...being formerly known as The Email Queen... Now I send off a shortER note. And sometimes an embarrassing amount of time goes by before I respond to an email. Oh, the guilt...
I miss that chattiness in person. Perhaps that is why I am so addicted to my tea now. Somehow the ritual of preparing the tea, getting that perfect combination of milk and sugar mixed in, and just...sitting with it, harkens back to the days when I actually GOT TOGETHER with another human being and shared a conversation! My invisible friend is just not cutting it...
On Saturday, I actually got to sit down and share delicious pastries and tea with a friend. And it was wonderful. All of it. Most of all seeing my dear friend. It was also a play date for the kids, with constant interruptions bursting out of the cacophony of NOISE, but it was SISTAH time. And it flew by too fast...
There will always be excuses for not getting together. Oh...the kids, the husband, the writing that I'm taking time for, the cleaning that I'm supposed to be doing, the .... But, I'm going to have to sit myself down, and really make an effort to see people IN PERSON.
So, you'll still see me on FACEBOOK. I'll FRIEND you and you can FRIEND me... And I'll probably still be throwing up innocuous comments on your wall. But, if you live within a 50 mile radius, LOOK OUT! The wall is coming down and I'm heading your way with my chatty and huggy self. Because, yes...I'm THAT kind of chatty and YES, I'm Miss Hugalicous. And you're important to me. Besides, since my FACEBOOK Fanatic friends will now UN FRIEND me for dissing LA FACEBOOK, I'll be available...for tea!
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